Generation gaps, I opined, has got to do with the style of parenting (there’re four according to psychology books) and to a certain extend education; English or otherwise. Parents did a good job adapting to the changes of time albeit at a slower pace i.e. text messaging and the sort. We enjoyed food at mamak stalls, good movies together, and also some football actions on TV; the latter being something of a lullaby for dad on the couch though.
Alas, that’s where solid ground ends especially when it comes to decision-making. Often, advices also serve as a tacit command. It is true that our parents are more experienced in many ways but there comes a time when one have to accept that their children are all grown up now. More so, after completing the first degree and contemplating on whether to pursue higher degree or to work.
Adulthood is gauged differently in different cultures but not going through a certain rite of passage doesn’t mean the ability to reason and decide isn’t well-developed. Being brought up the Asian way of showing filial piety and respect, we’re always building and mending the bridge of communication to ensure that our thoughts are articulated, with due respect I may add.
Not giving room for recriminations, I believe that the chasm between two generations could be greatly reduced if we’d take turns to listen, speak, and accept – all in good spirits and an open mind. After all, we’re spending good time shooting the breeze and not to shoot each other’s thoughts down. I dare not say that we’re masters of our lives but we value their advice. After all, a good decision is made with their feedbacks and our passion.
Like it or not, though we’re one but there will always be, at best, a little gap. Cleavage if you like.
Alas, that’s where solid ground ends especially when it comes to decision-making. Often, advices also serve as a tacit command. It is true that our parents are more experienced in many ways but there comes a time when one have to accept that their children are all grown up now. More so, after completing the first degree and contemplating on whether to pursue higher degree or to work.
Adulthood is gauged differently in different cultures but not going through a certain rite of passage doesn’t mean the ability to reason and decide isn’t well-developed. Being brought up the Asian way of showing filial piety and respect, we’re always building and mending the bridge of communication to ensure that our thoughts are articulated, with due respect I may add.
Not giving room for recriminations, I believe that the chasm between two generations could be greatly reduced if we’d take turns to listen, speak, and accept – all in good spirits and an open mind. After all, we’re spending good time shooting the breeze and not to shoot each other’s thoughts down. I dare not say that we’re masters of our lives but we value their advice. After all, a good decision is made with their feedbacks and our passion.
Like it or not, though we’re one but there will always be, at best, a little gap. Cleavage if you like.
